So as i sit down to write about this my phone pings. Nothing unusual but this message couldn’t come at a better time. You see i’ve had a picture of my baby taken down from a page. Not just any page – a Facebook support page for mummies in business. A page where we support and cheer each other along knowing that mummy life is a struggle. Where we share pics and help each others media following by sharing content with each other. A page set up by ladies only for ladies only . A page full of mummies just like myself trying to do something in life apart from change nappies and wipe snotty noses all day long .
Let me add here as I try to figure out why a pic of my son playing alone on a beach in paradise would cause such offence ( apart from the fact its freezing and i may be rubbing it in some peoples faces that I’m sat on a hot sunny beach in pure luxury – yeah i get it ) my phone pings again.
Ok i’ve been banned from the group…… like banned forever! gone! dismissed – see ya later mamma –
and the reason – indecent content – Really????????????
HAS THE WORLD GONE PC CARZY OR DO WE AS PARENTS NEED TO BE MORE CAREFUL IN WHAT WE POST????
What makes it ok to have a pic of babies with their bottoms out ok’d for a national nappy campaign yet an innocent beach pic gets banned for indecency???? Wheres the line? Is there a line? and where do we stop????
So this brings me to the main topic –
Are we too lax with what we share ? Should we be and are we unknowingly exploiting our kids on social media? Or are we all going too damn PC crazy and does the whole world need to take a breath and chill and just see it for what it is –
So heres the question
SHOULD WE PUT OUR KIDS ON SOCAIL MEDIA OR NOT??
Now where I’m going with this is purely my opinion and I totally agree that everyone is entitled to theirs as well but for me this act of dismissal from the group has got my back up a bit.
You see for all of you looking in, it may look like I share my whole life with the world but the fact is I really don’t. For every 200 pics I take I share maybe 2 or 3 . For every 50 funny or cute incidents that happen in my life daily I maybe tell you about 2. I don’t just post anything. All of my posts are scanned and planned as I say …….
I have albums and albums of treasured memories that I keep just for us. Private memories , memories that maybe only mean something to us as a couple or as a family. But I also feel I have some sort of ( and I use this in the loosest term ) duty to my followers ( ad many of you friends ) to share my little journey of motherhood and to maybe even inspire some of you along the way.
I feel comfortable putting pics of my kids up because i’m happy in the fact that I have a following of like minded genuine accounts and in all honestly the truth is I vet every single person who follows me. ( yup every single one of you ) Contrary to what it may look like in this crazy world of social media popularity i’m not about numbers . For me its never been a numbers game its about attracting the right audience who will appreciate my little life story.
Can you believe i’ve never been trolled once! ( well that’s a lie – there was one time but it was an exes new girlfriend who had beef with me for some reason totally unbeknown to me. I mean an ex is an ex for a reason right ??? she was quite welcome to him !!! )
Anyway back to the point in hand . I’ve never been trolled because I check every single on of my followers out . I study every page and if there is something I don’t like or something that offends me I block!!!! Honestly you want to see my block list. It’s pages long lol!
Now I know my page is public so anyone can see my content and i’m not that naive to not know that many people hide behind fake accounts but for me right now I feel comfortable putting what I put out.
Never once have I felt like my children are being exploited or used for my gain. Never once has a bad or derogatory word been said about any of my children. Each day my feed and story messages are filled with love .
I feel like I protect my children to my best ability despite posting lots and lots of personal moments
But saying that would I feel differently if the case were different ……
AND THE ANSWER IS YES!!!!!! ABSOLUTELY YES!!!!
I’m also well aware that social media can be a horrid place! Keyboard warriors hide behind fake profiles ready to pounce. My best friend no longer puts her children faces online because of nasty comments said about her little girl. And she’s not an isolated case. There’s many more friends and people i know who have experienced the same uncalled for trolling.
Are they right to block their children faces and withdraw from sharing to shelter them from these vile people ???? Absolutely yes!!!! and it’s saddens me . It’s so sad that this is happening but at the same time why would any mother put their child out in public if only to be bullied in such a way???
It would only take one bad word said against any of my children for me to stop posting . Period!!!!!
And on that note i’m going to sign off for the day. But before I go i’d love to know your thoughts?
Leave your comments below and i’ll get back to you all.
Until tomorrow lovelies